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I’m on vacation. Here are some past letters that I’m making new again, rather than leaving them to wilt in the archives. 1. My friend/client won’t pay my cancellation fee I have a friend who I met because we both enjoy certain sports. I’ll call him Frank. I only see Frank when I am involved […]

• my client won't pay my cancellation fee, company asked us to donate a kidney to a board member, and more
• my employee relocated and didn't tell me
• I'm caught in the middle of an investigation at work

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are five updates from past letter-writers. 1. I reported a coworker for hitting a child (#2 at the link) I figured out after doing some more research […]

• interviewer asked what brings me pain, I reported a coworker for hitting a child, and more
• what's reasonable for managers to expect of parents working from home?
• my boss expects me to babysit her rambunctious kid

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. 1. My best friend is […]

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This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. 1. My neighbor, her nephew, […]

• a dog-sitting job gone bad, delayed approval for time off, and more
• a coworker is harassing my neighbor (who is having chemo)
• can I ask my coworkers why they didn’t hire my daughter?

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

A reader writes: I lead a manufacturing business that I co-founded over a decade ago. It turned its first profit recently, but all this time, we as the owners have taken care of everyone by taking colossal personal debt and making incredible sacrifices, including working ourselves an average of 60 hours a week. We have […]

• should people who sell MLM products put "business owner" on their resumes?
• am I too generous with my employees?
• how can I hire people when my company won't negotiate on salary or remote work?

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Remember the letter-writer asking if she could do anything about an aggressive-driver […]

• my coworker is a terrible driver -- and I have to ride with him on work trips
• my new employee ran a background check on me and asked me about what he found
• I caught my coworker masturbating at his desk

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

I’m on vacation. Here are some past letters that I’m making new again, rather than leaving them to wilt in the archives. 1. My boss got drunk and was angry that I couldn’t drive him back to the office I have been working at my job (a Fortune 500 company) for nine months, after I […]

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• my boss drinks and expects me to drive with him
• my coworker/friend keeps coming to work drunk

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It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. How do I tell coworkers I’m married when they don’t think I am? (#2 at the link) Your advice was […]

• my coworker told everyone we're married ... we're not even dating
• my husband's boss/our friend is sleeping with their married department head
• my coworker keeps joking that I'm having sex with my husband in the office

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. 1. An industry colleague is […]

• an industry colleague is lying to me about a dispute we had years ago
• employee is demanding Diet Coke as a religious accommodation, desk is covered with photos of feet, and more
• coworker says she loves shoplifting, asking to take over a specific person's job, and more

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. In 2018, I printed a letter from someone asking whether they should […]

• boss invited our whole office on a 10-day cruise, I had a disturbing dream about an employee, and more
• coworkers crashed my networking party, new hire wants to print everything, and more
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This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

Welcome to “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager! Between now and the end of the year, I’ll be running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. A heads-up about update season: for the next few weeks I’ll be posting at midnight, 11 am, 12:30 pm, 2 pm, […]

• update: I ghosted my ex, and she’s about to be my new boss
• update: my dad is dating my boss, and they want me to go to couples therapy with them
• where are they now: update #1 - the new HR rep with no help

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Remember the letter-writer asking whether to tell an employee she needed to […]

• should I tell my employee she needs to give a clearer "no" to a client who's interested in her?
• are these men hitting on me via LinkedIn or are they legit business contacts?
• I yelled at my employees and they walked out

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I’m on vacation. Here are some past letters that I’m making new again, rather than leaving them to wilt in the archives. And then later today, updates season begins! 1. My former tenant’s “manager” is requesting money for her time spent on a lease dispute I have been in conflict with a former tenant (Sara) […]

• am I being considered for too many jobs, my former tenant's manager is requesting money from me, and more
• visible bra lines at work, boss keeps winking at me, and more
• I sacrificed for my boyfriend’s business and might get nothing, renting a house from my boss, and more

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: Trust and Safety, by Laura Blackett and Eve Gleichman. Sick of NYC and searching for a more meaningful life, a couple buy a dilapidated […]

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• the cats of AAM

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It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […]

• a coworker prayed for my fiancé's death so we didn't invite her to our wedding ... and now there is drama
• my manager named Joseph Stalin employee of the month
• need help finding a job? start here

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This comment section is open for any discussion you’d like to have with other readers (work or non-work or possibly even entirely dessert-focused if that’s your bag). Happy Thanksgiving!

• an Ask a Manager Thanksgiving
• my office makes us cook and eat lunch together every day
• the sweet potato incident, the green lunch, and other tales of terrible work food

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Share your holiday angst or joy in this special Thanksgiving eve non-work open thread.

• the Thanksgiving tyrant, the very special salad, and other stories of potlucks at work
• my former employee lied to get a new job, paper turkeys, and more
• my coworker wants us to call her boyfriend her “master”

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s more holiday stories! Tradition dictates that as we head into the holiday season, we must revisit holiday stories previously shared by readers. Here are some favorites. 1. The magic I once worked at a small nonprofit with a lot of team spirit — people truly seemed to love staff gatherings, staff outings, etc. We […]

• the abundant shrimp, the resentful Oreos, and other stories of holiday madness at work
• the Christmas bureaucrat, Secret Santa questionnaire, and other stories of holidays at work
• the cake hoarder, the missing egg, and other stories of holiday mayhem

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

A reader writes: I work in an industry and on a product where business is booming. We’re making headlines internationally and people are flocking to the product. With this attention has come a large amount of in-bound sales offers from other companies. Software, insights tools, celebrity talent agents, you name it. My inbox is flooded […]

• I don't want to be pied in the face for work
• my boss wants me to host a product party for her, I compared my interviewer to my dog, and more
• employer wants friends and family to participate in 360 feedback reviews

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I asked last week about unusual office traditions you’ve seen or experienced, and here are 15 of my favorites you shared. 1. The PB&J party We once had a coworker who was a young, single guy right out of college and living on his own for the first time. He always forgot to buy groceries, […]

• new boss has a different work style, hanging a photo of the president in your office, and more
• my boss wants us to meet with a spiritualist to fix the negative energy in our building
• my employee delivered a status update … in song